I’ve got 99 Problems but a Guy ain’t One—The Beauty of being Single

By Samantha Velez

It’s impossible that she’s truly content with the single life, right? Deep down, she must secretly rejoice over the tears of her heartbroken friends or is really cynical or something. No actually, despite contrary belief, I am a genuinely proud member of the New York City single population and there are endless reasons to be happy about that, even on Valentine’s Day.

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To begin, you don’t have to squeeze into some packed restaurant in SoHo and pretend that you like over-priced small portions when sesame chicken and wonton soup are really the key to your heart. Then, you feel bloated as you are constricted in some tight, expensive lingerie you bought from Victoria’s Secret in anticipation of the perfect night of mind-blowing sex. As the end of the night nears, he grants you with the most heartwarming gift— a big teddy bear with a red heart stitched on its chest from Duane Reade that will accumulate dust in your closet for a year or so.

Most of the time we place pressure on ourselves to enjoy things that society says we should enjoy, like Valentine’s Day, and not what we actually enjoy. That’s really the beauty of being single on Valentine’s Day— you can do whatever you want with zero pressure. Capitalize on all of the things that make you happy whether that is spending time with friends or having some “me time.” Instead of wallowing in self-pity over a bottle of wine because you are the single friend, do something you enjoy, whether it’s strolling through a museum, going out, volunteering, hitting the gym, et cetera et cetera. The more you learn how to act independently and invest in the things you are passionate about, the higher likelihood you will meet someone who shares common interests with you. When you are single in New York City, you have nothing to lose. Go chat up the cute guy at the club, at the concert in Williamsburg, or at one of the endless lines at Trader Joes.

You will have your entire life ahead of you to be with the right person, but for now there is nothing wrong with being a little selfish. Take the time to travel, meet new people, spend time with friends and family, and experience all you can before you truly become a grown-up (ew responsibilities).Your single years will teach you about yourself, what you like and dislike, and that another person does not validate who you are. Keep your head up high this Valentine’s Day, and all the other 364 days of the year.

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